Up-set! completely unbelieving of another person’s actions or viewpoint because really, they CAN’T be serious. I think we’ve all been here at one point or another. I like to call this type of conversation heated fellowship. We’re Christian so we really prefer not to have an argument but this person really seems like they’re trying to take you there. In these situations, what do you do to keep your composure? How do you in the midst of your true feelings, keep it Christ-like? Here are some things to keep in mind during heated fellowship.
1. Keep an open mind – Sometimes we feel like something is totally logical or that a certain view point makes perfect since but what we have to remember is that not everyone thinks the way that we do. We don’t all rationalize the same or have the same perspectives. So, try to be open to the other person’s point of view.
2. Keep forgiveness on deck – No one is perfect. We all make mistakes and although some mistakes may seem bigger than others at the end of the day forgiveness is what matters most. Does this mean that what the person may have done is ok? Absolutely not. It just means that you’re allowing the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ to supersede your emotional desire to hold a grudge and or seek revenge.
3. Think before you speak – In the heat of a discussion we often times say things that we regret later on. No matter how passionate we may be about the subject, it is critical to think before you speak. Our words have power and as soon as they leave your mouth and enter the atmosphere you’ve given them life. If there is even a slight possibility that you may regret it later, don’t say it.
4. Look for a compromise – Sometimes it’s as simple as finding a compromise. If you see any solution that will meet the needs/desires of you and the other person, suggest it.
5. Love – At the end of the day, love is the most powerful entity. No matter what you’re arguing about or are in disagreement about treating people in love, even if they don’t do the same is what is most important.
They may not always be easy to execute, but these are some key things that can help you to keep your heated discussions in perspective. Don’t let a disagreement get you out of character or compromise your spiritual maturity.